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My Pain "Everyone in our life goes though lots of stress and agony in search for happiness which affect his personality by a way or another.
For me it was very hard to start over my life after a long time of agony, troubles & bad luck in everything.
I faced a lot of hard times after & before divorce, I fell in love with a guy for 3 years and after a lot of troubles our relation came to a dead end .I asked God to be with him for ever and I spent 3 years in my life thinking about him , loving him and trying to be his mother , friend , his lover all at the same time but our relation ended so bad at the end and Igot divorced after a month & 22 days from date of official marriage which was a shock for me ,my parents and everyone and we ended it up by a lot of troubles and bad events.These were the most difficult moments I spent I my life .
Of course after all that , I lost faith in my self , my character changed a lot. Every thing and I mean it everything has changed inside me. I started to feel like I am a looser plus all around me looked at me as if I was really a looser. Deep inside me I started to destroy my self unconsciously. I started to blame my self all the time while I am working , sleeping , eating, hanging around .I was driving my self crazy , I started to lose interest in my life and in people and for some time I was asking my self why me God ?? I really can’t handle all that. Of course I started to lose interest in my work which was the only thing important now. My relation with my parents was bad. And worst of all; I was going to lose faith in myself which at that time felt better for me to die.
Hope That's when I met someone who started to give me support. Yasmin offered to be my coach. Frankly speaking I wasn’t sure about that but Yasmin started to tell me more about life coaching Yasmin started to bring me articles talking about life coaching at a period of my life when I was very hopeless . I started to think about the whole thing about what is the meaning to life coaching? how can you coach someone without affecting him with your opinion? It was really hard for me because I am one of the characters that is very weak to take any decision alone ,all my decisions were because I am stubborn and that I want that not because it is right. For the first time I insisted on something and I was dying to spend my whole life with this guy; I failed to achieve that , I found my self pushing through hell alone, I simply broke down. So to have someone to coach you by listening to your needs and try to help you to achieve your dreams even if it is an unbelievable dream and to let go of what are left inside me from agony and bad memories and hate , something must be appreciated because I believe that two minds are better than one and so on….,
Meeting some one like my coach on weekly basis helped me in a lot of things: Development Personally: 1st thing is how to express my inner feelings on paper like what I am doing now, which is so important to write specially when I am feeling down. If it’s Good so I can use it as a reference to cheer my self up and turn it on in any duration to give my self hope. If it’s Bad it will be a very powerful reference to show how much agony and pain I went through and I did overcome it , so life is a simple school but we had to learn from it’s simplicity to avoid big disasters.
2nd thing how to set my needs and my priorities and arrange them in my mind and write them down.
3rd how to achieve your Goals and your needs that I wished to achieve and in what duration of time?? and how can I move toward this?
4th How can I move towards this achievement? and what if I couldn’t achieve what I want ? so how can I handle this!? , how to be satisfied that I did manage a plan to my life no matter it’s ending even if I calculate every step. Worse case scenario I couldn’t achieve anything, Sometimes God's hands reveal our life which we call it Fate and if this happened how can I accept it happily without blaming myself or blame God .
I have to admit that when support comes from someone talented or specialist it’s really helps so much, it makes you discover your self in a new frame ,discover that it is not the end of life that you lose in one battle still there are lots of battles we can win but we only need to face our battle .
My coach as someone specialized in her felid and in her study helped me to discover a lot in my self & character. All I needed is just thinking, good planning and sheer up.
So like I said I once set a meeting and I sit with her declaring all I want to achieve in the next three years in my life or in another word to re-build my self after 3 years of "coma" like I named my life with this guy. Professionally: The 1st thing I achieved with her help was how to change my career? For me I was working in a medical & scientific company as a secretary I took experience , and I learnt a lot of things but , Frankly I didn’t find myself in it and I started to lose interest in being a secretary.
I wasn’t sure if it true that I didn’t find myself or just immaturity and bad influence from what happened to me so I lost interest in everything., It was hard for me to take the decision by leaving my work so I kept on looking everywhere for a new job in the field that I like " human resources". And finally I found a suitable one for me, I went through a very bad and harsh interview that I was sure they will not take me. I had the long interview in my life for 2 hours after which I felt that I am a new person with a new mentality and new vision and new life , it wasn’t easy for me to take the risk and leave the old one from both sides emotionally and wisely but Yasmin helped me to move on by reminding me always with that papers I write in them all my needs and dreams and how much brave I must be through my life.
From that moment I liked the idea of writing and I understand now her insistence on writing down my feelings.And I did leave my work and I am willing now to join the new company which I want it, hoping to find myself in as I expect.
After all the events of the work and leaving my old company in which I already knew everyone and I knew quite well how to deal with people inside this company and after I took a good place, very good reputation; being able to choose from more that one good opportunity makes me at the end more than happy, it is a new feeling I didn’t find my self in this mood before even on my wedding day. I haven't felt that. My last day at my work was like a high mountain I finally reached it’s top , after a lot of effort you know this is the first time for me to test victory , successes no words can describe my feelings that I did feel.
In My Life: After divorce my life changed 100% specially my relationship with my parents. It did change to worse than the beginning , we are different and there is a gap between us and this gap became wider and wider that I can’t handle. So Yasmin helped me to find a good way to deal with them and accept them as they are and without pushing myself. It really was something very hard I am not perfect at; but I am trying, and it is working till now.
Emotionally I was attracted to someone who works with me , just admiration , meeting him by accident in any office makes my day and calling his department and hearing his voice was something very sweet , I announced to my coach that I liked him. Just seeing him or calling him by accident made my day and makes me up and hyper-actvice and fresh. I was nothing to him. He never noticed me. He never felt what happened to me when I saw him or hear his voice and when I announced that I likehim, Yasmin helped me. Yasmin opened a door for me to show myself and Yasmin created chances to meet him and it was my turn to move towards him and to know him well more and make him know me better and I succeeded in this and I think he likes me .
I don’t think that these things will be continued but it is nice to set a target for your self and you try to achieve it and you know I think it is only admiration not more than that but at least I felt for three days as if I am lady , someone cared about me and I am still happy that I now gained a new friend who knows what will happen after that .
After that I realized that Coaching is something important , we always need people to support us, we can’t live alone in this word we need friends, we need someone to teach and help us to understand how we can deal with ourselves. Name: D.S. Job : HR Specialist Age: 22 May 2005 |
| "Yasmin is a great coach First of all I trust that she will help me and will not tell anyone in the world about any thing that is said to her She gives me many solutions to the issues that I discuss with her. She helps me when my life is so bad and intolerable to live in. She helps me to be near to God and demand the help from him so I can survive with my problems and make sure that he will give me what I need I feel relaxed when I talk to her not because she says any phrase to make me calm but she convinces me with word and hope that everything will be ok as I need and how to survive until my hope will be a real; this helps me to continue in my miserable life. She is a nice person and really I hope that she will be a great and well-known coach world wide." N.L. Age:29 Office Manager National Post Office Oct. 2005 |
A couple of months I weighed about 85 Kg. Yasmin helped me to lose 7 Kg. in less than two months and we will go on, without considering my self to be “on a diet.” This is lifestyle. And this was by: - Specifying our target.
- Working on this target
- Supporting to continue.
- Giving me motivations.
- Helping to work on.
Yasmin helped me to change my outlook, it is great feeling to feel there is somebody who helps and encourages you to take on through the world.
F.Y. Administration Assistant Age: 26 May 2005
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3D Success:Professionally – Personally (as a Human being) – and Family Relationship Professionally Yasmin helped me: - Evaluate myself periodically, and routinely re-evaluate to know what I gained, what I am doing, what I will do and know the positives and negatives of each step.
- Understand that it is not enough to excel only in what I do as a JOB or Task at work, more important is to have a vision for creation, innovation and development through continuous education.
- Prior to starting any task, I have to first plan for it by understanding my destination and how to reach it in an organized way.
- How to organize my time between work and home instead of letting work consume all my time and energy.
- Always express my gratitude and appreciation to all who adds to me either by a good job, a help, an advice, or anything useful even a smile.
- Organize and well define any reports that I submit to anyone at work so that they can understand what it has to reveal instead of having me all the time to explain.
- Maximize the use of my time and eliminate sparing it in useless activities.
Personally Yasmin opened my eyes to the facts that: - It is not enough to feel the pain of others without taking any action. We have to have a positive impact on others to help them soothe their pains and live a happy life. Only through our real help for each other, life can go on.
- We shouldn't take any thing that is beautiful or good for granted, we have to appreciate everything we like and benefit from.
- Being sensitive to others as we don't know what their circumstances may be, not to place endless pressure on them and not to use our perception of people and things as the truth.
Family Relationship Yasmin has helped me: - Change the way I deal with my family. Most important is how to deal with my own wife. My life has changed to a more happy one according to Yasmin's advices on the way to deal with my wife and kids. Whatever I feel is enough to make my wife happy from my point of view doesnot necessarily be enough for my partner. The feeling alone is not enough, but the real actions that show those feelings and the frequency of showing them, the variation in expressing them and the insistence on making my partner understand how much she means to me are the key to a mutual happiness at home.
- Understand that we can enjoy what we are doing at the moment even when we are suffering or tired. Happiness is not a destination that we reach but a joyful journey we take.
- Absorb that raising my kids is not just to offer them food, shelter and education. The way I raise my children, the values and qualities that I apply and the time I enjoy them and they enjoy my presence with them is the most important thing.
- Manage to shut my mind off work as I leave work. When I go home I am home with my mind, heart and soul at home and with my family.
This is a small overview of how my life has changed with the help and support of Yasmin, we wish her an extended happiness and success through her path of giving. O.A. age: 33 Accountant Dec.2005 |
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